He of course would NOT talk to me about it. Theyll say whatever is necessary to get you back in a relationship with them. I never felt anything like that before. For 4 yrs I thought it was me. After a month of, feeling like my world was over I started to look for hope anywhere I, could find it. After the breakup of her one-sided, narcissistic relationship, Molly found the peace that had always seemed just out of reach. I cant let him get his hooks in me again. Initially he wasnt my type, however he was quite persistent. She would say terrible things to me like, We said not to abort the baby, we didnt say keep it When we found out my baby was a boy he made me feel defective in some way. I want to tell her that she will become exhausted from the cycle; maybe not now, but when she becomes an elder. They most often come back after ending the relationship if there is still enough supply for them. He didnt even show any care when i told him the facts and that why im breaking up. It was almost like he knew how my head operated. Which he took me to to wow you pull you in. I am so angry this man stole my youth. So I did no contact for 30 days.nothing. Youre finally free of the controlling behaviors, insulting comments, and constant gaslighting. In the next 5 months, I was barely with her she dumped me every second day and went missing for days and weeks and rock back in my life like nothing happened. Even so, he & wife reconciled and he continued to stray. To anyone suffering this evil, leave and leave now. I can admit it although he would not. Any advice or suggestions? Ghosting Ghosting is another one of these narcissistic break-up games. Well. Dont know what to do now? Do they ever break up with you but demand that you not tell anyone that you guys broke up? All he had in him for me was contempt and rage!! And see so many messages sexual talking to men about how he wants to have sex with them. He would sleep out by family as he would claim, it just was too much to bear. Narcissists are not likely to view any agreement as fair or just. The abuse continued but I bought 2 doorknobs with key locks. Why do all of their eyes have a weird film over them? Mine has a New Supply, he started cheating with her just before we broke up. It's a kind of Concern Trolling. He right the way started to calling me pets names like sweet heart and babe. I only have one way of communicating with her, and thats through email now. Thank you Dr.chamberc for what you did. I read these post and have experienced everything posted. your life truly depends on itand if you have children please please get out so they can have a chance at a functional life you nor they may not see it now but just like I never thought I would I Thank GOD everytime I encounter that demonic empwhich is often. This mom has sent him to visits with dirty clothes on, not appropriate clothing for the weather, not started ANY solid foods as yet (8 months!) And wanted a real relationship. Your narcissistic ex isnt capable of caring about you, only about how you make them feel. until a friend of mine Walt Pen told me about a spell caster who helped him in the same problem too. I live in those 2 rooms. I have friends that are stuck with man like this for years. After 1 years of Broken marriage, my wife left me with two kids . I see the criticism but not any words as to correction. Once youre out of the relationship, stay out and dont look back. He tried his best to damage my confidence and self esteem but I got out just soon enough. Feed me all this crap s perfect say. This is consistent with the tendency for narcissists to be especially hostile when they're rejected. I was in a relationship with an N for 8 months. We were married for 5 years & during our 3 year of marriage, I got pregnant with our daughter. the last thing you want is to be listening to another Narc for a prolonged period of time. Finally his sister set me straight on him and that he can never be trusted He is 62. why do they talk about exs so much and compare you to them? Theyre always searching for a source of supply and if they can get it while making you feel like theyre the more emotionally mature and forgiving person in the relationship, all the better. He continually crosses boundaries and violates court orders. keep reading and educating yourself is the biggest thing St help.. Is there any advice please feel free to share. Narcissists dont have a timetable, they only have alternate sources of supply. I think he is so obsessed with everyone being attracted to him he doesnt care if nits a man or a woman! There is a resource called the Grey Rock Method I believe on how to handle the N when there are children involved. Ive never ever had to deal with this type of deception backstabbing drama in my life and since he dumped me, maybe hell back off now. Well first. I know that the pic is innocent and that it was when she left me.. but I feel guilty for not telling her and I have started to blame myself that its all my fault. Its so awesome to breathe again. Yes, I have said gay, and all of the above as you have stated. I fully understand now how she reached that point. Once I had proof, I discovered he wasnt just having an affair but had got this girl pregnant. They are dangerous to your soul. Before she becomes an elder, fatigue will set in along with depression, bitterness, unworthiness, and other negative traits that will support the fact that she may/will never be happy while in this cycle. I feel devastated as I think she was a wonderful person and I messed things up so badly. The last night he stayed out, he was gone two days but not before accusing me of cheating because I wasnt home when he came in after dark. He d already had it set up; I fell apart after I told her to get off my property. Over time they start to devalue you and in doing so, eliminate your ability to make them feel better about themselves. Well after I attempted to expose him, he became quite abusive verbally. We were very much, in love and talked about the future often. Both . Well I birthed my son alone, I didnt know I was in labor and ended up having an emergency csection. A show of power is designed to force you into a position of subservience you will ask for forgiveness, heap praise upon them, and provide a source of supply. Its a hard thing to do but ur sanity is worth more an the avo makes him not contact u an if he does he goes to jail so either way u are rid of him. I have dealt with deaths easier than this mental/ emotional manslaughter. Along with his physical abuse. He was creepy, before we found out what the baby was he would say things like, I really want a girl. The omly way to control my situation definitely is NO CONTACT. No contact has giving me my sanity back. He got off on making me suffer..He never gave me any help or breaks and eventually with the stress of caretaking a adult for twenty years with autism I was depleted . The more I read about Narcissism and being in the situation the more I felt like an outsider looking in, I loved my ex more than anyone previously, fell for the sad stories and I would bend over backwards to make him feel happy and content which was never respirocated. Bingo! Some people have had to get retraining orders, to keep people away, do what you have to.They dont always give up so easily, most dont. I cannot leave. Our son dated an N for approximately 8 months, and then ran for the hills. With that said, cut all communication and only speak with him when its in regards to your son. The drug that shes using is just as worse as alcohol, weed, cocaine, heroin, ext. Theyre comfortable in your toxic relationship, so its always easier to come back rather than find someone new. Then I find out hes married. He immediately called me and tried to convince me he was coming, which he also said like an hour before, but I was pissed he was not respecting my time so I blew him off. They didnt voluntarily give up their humanity, it was taken from them from people just like the monsters they became. I know you can do it! I know I am being very insensitive with my comments but what this woman needs is a wake up call. I fell back into the same trap with all the charm that I thought was sincere after 5 years of separation. Wow!! While narcissists have an inflated sense of pride, they have no qualms about returning to a relationship if they think it will benefit them. Being a whore ? The night he come back I took him out with my friends. Ive been in a relationship with a 36 year old N and Im 28. He promptly messages me on my phone: I in no way want to open the door, youre a crap a**, crappy, bad personetc. Its like, why not just leave it alone! I needed him back desperately because i loved him so much. Ive read a lot on narcissism since I got involved with this man & I can say from personal experience, this seems to be exactly how they are. He had said in these texts that I was this crappy person and this crappy personI sent a text that basically said he didnt appreciate me and I put up with alls this and thisand I listed itlike gaslighting and passive aggressive behavior. Out of nowhere he surprisingly left me to be with another girl, so i met a friend who gave me this Tel +1 (971)-512-6745) of this spell caster Robinson, he stays in USA, so contacted him because i was so heartbroken and dont know what to do with myself but after 3 days of contacting Mr Robinson , my lover came back to me. Ive read this post a few times and havent left a comment until now. When he came back I would be so hurt, I made him stay out for another day or three. Then I get back home. During a separation from me ( there has been many) he can have this type of supply for about a week, then becomes irrational, angers easily and seeks only me . they idealize you, love bombing you with praise, telling you how wonderful you are and how great you make them feel. He texted me he had a meltdown of his mind of me, I was his goddess and he was stupid, he was loved and happy with me, we were amazing together and we look so great together. Your best bet is to ignore them the way they ignored you earlier. Jus they out. com . He also supplies them with beer and open door policy so they all praise him .. they all fear him as well but by socializing with these people he seems to get enough supply . Stay Strong, get counciling. After thinking I had found the love of my life then being discarded abruptly 7 mo. He is 84 years old and still screwing like hes 18 because he hasnt worked a day in 45 years. People need research this demonic spirit to better learn whose causing this spiritual warfare in reality. Im praying for u. Melanie Your story is my life. One theoretical perspective has been especially useful in helping researchers understand how narcissists behave in their relationships: The Narcissistic Admiration and Rivalry Concept. Love empathy compassion, a conscience .making them retarded psychopaths who self destruct over their selfishness, self love, low self esteem. Paul, I can really see where the problem here lies. It is my believe that due to the emotional attachment that women can put with situations and circumstances That they could pull this off with less skepticism From those around them and with the ease that they can get emotional ,crying ,acting hurt ect. A week. Look for single moms clubs or make one for yourself and build your friends group. Ill never know. This was the final time I left the relationship (number 7). Well he gos. Slowly but surely my daughter after all her life is beginning to see things,differently as she now is starting to understand the rejection when he will forfeit his visitation time with her at the drop of a dime to attend to his own selfish needs. my narcissitic ex also it is addicted to porn and on line dating sites, he lied to me also about it and he cant not accepted, but I know his addiction to porn, also he had been trying to always find his perfetct match but never find it, I had been hurt so many times, and he promissed me to change and all that, same thing we got engaged and after 3 weeks living together he started locking himself on the computer room and getting so mad and defensive when I questioned what he was doing there I turned back to my hometown and I hope to never hear from him again. Broken So he just went to the smoky mountains he tells me in emails says he has no reception. .. If kids are involved, you may need to discuss the logistics of visitation or travel, but it's okay to completely disregard any other communication. Nobody will ever get him for real. If you don't give the narcissist what they want after the breakup (i.e. She was able to leave u without any remorse and went on to live with her boyfriend, but the moment you wanted to have a life of your own, shes trying to come back. If we're on the initiating end of the breakup, we're likely to get over it more quickly than if we're on the receiving end. Just accepted it. He made me feel like teh queen of his life when I met him, and when I moved countries to be with him ( he had many things he had done but he wasnt what I would call cruel). During the course of the relationship they were always looking for admiration, praise & complement like all the time! The Following Is An Excerpt From A Document Ive Written Regarding My Experience With A..Well I Tend To Think A Narcissist..But Possibly A Sociopath..Im Not Sure Which. It was totally invalidating and then I would do it because somehow I was trying to show him that if he didnt care enough to answer me, or speak to me when he came home, then I would not give him his peace he demanded). Dr Mack is the best caster Ive seen thus far, whoever need help to get his or her lover in a perfect way should try to contact Dr_Mack@yahoo. Maybe the word is thrown around too much,not all break ups are because of narcissistic abuse, but too many are these days! And he starts pushing me punching me spitting in my face holds me down cuts my beard off calling me fat ugly and no one will want me then kickes me out of our apartment. When he left that night, he asked me if he could kiss me; I let him. We started fighting, often and after six months of a rocky patch between us, he ended, things.I was completely devastated and heartbroken. Even if he is in the relationship for power or control, he still feels immense pain and sadness. Well, received an e-mail telling me he now has a girlfriend. old. Its so creepy he would just want.to stare into me for ages and i felt so uneasy He will be back in 8 weeks telling me yet again Im his soulmate .. Have my sole on the back of your head! He went silent immediately. A couple months ago, I started sleeping in the spare room when he decided to keep staying out and ignoring me with the silent treatment over the course of a couple weeks. After almost two months away. Dear friends, I am from united states i had a problem with my husband 2years ago, which lead to our break up. Weve gone through this a few times and now that he lives here it makes it a million times harder to get him out. Then he asked to come see me. I blocked him 8 months ago on my phone and he still managed to leave me 40 voicemails! Yes! Thank you for this . Somehow, he felt, unsafe? He would leave for days/ weeks. Lots of things happened and we took a trip together with girls including her ex. But you cant make sense out of crazy. On top of all of it, I am without a job and my car does not work so for the past year, Ive been driving one of his cars. There were times when I thought wouldnt it be great if I were dead or if she were dead so that I do not need to cause her so much anguish or I dont need to feel depressed any more. I spent a lot of sleepless nights where I stayed up for days at a time, my hair is falling out, Im on several medications because of my stress and all week Ive been waking up with anxiety attacks but when my daughter told me that he is telling him family, who I really loved, especially his mother that I sent those letters and is attempting to make me look like Im crazy and unglued, it snapped me back to my self and Im not crying no more. Possibly. Just playing the victim, where I wonder who is the true personality disorder here. Me always being I love with him I agree So that night Im driving him home he tells me hes going on a trip. Reviewed by Vanessa Lancaster. Caused by early childhood trauma.They want a controlled slave, to abuse, use, while they do whatever they want. There is no specific time frame for this behavior; your best option is to close the door on them and never look back. She may never be happy period. She told me that I was sleeping with ex husband thats why I couldnt reply and was so mean and harsh. Thanks for this realization. Only way to describe their behaviour is like Dr Jeckyl & Mr Hyde. I think the only way to avoid this guy for the next 18+ years would be for you to give up the baby. Walking corpses. I found out the day after the breakup and went totally No Contact. I didnt feel my son was safe alone with his father while I was at work at times.. because the break-down he had.. because he says he could trust me with coworkers. We we together for almost five years and married what would have been 3 years coming this April. To try and break the no contact rule. With your help I have been inspired and motivated to move on as fast as I can and chalk it up as life experience knowing that there is someone out there thats right for me and staying away from narcissistic girls. I would get so upset when he would say he would call me and WEEKS would go by without him even noticing he hadnt. If genetic factors are involved nothing helps. He calls and one minute all of a sudden he wants marriage counseling and hes coming to get his family, then the next minute he wants a divorce, or everything that has happened is my fault. Narcissists are like aliens parasitic aliens. By about August 2015 it had such a tight grip on me I was virtually paralysed from doing much of anything due to my fear of her, severe depression, complete loss of self confidence and little to no self esteem. Even tho im just 18 he has emotionally drained me. Fortunately I was able to use this information and apply it to my situation. This time, he stayed gone a week; he came back to get clothes and left after writing checks for the bills. I was with one of these horrible ppl for 2 years. He would then treat me like a dog with no tolerance, no compassion or help with anything. He came with rage and the intent to put fear in me, like always before.Those days of showing any kind of kindness, had long been gonelong before I left. She was pretty pissed with him when I made it my business to show her my rings. How to get over a narcissist 1. I dont mean to whine,Im just stating fact. But this time Im gonna stay strong! of course i was sleeping and texted her the next day after i got home from the gym..that was the first blow up i seen from her (should of been the last) she was screaming at me when i called her saying things like why didnt you text me back i was out with my friends and i told them i met someone special and that you were different than the rest and i embarrassed her by not texting her,,,after our fight she had me apologizing for not waking up and texting her at 3am i should of saw the red flag at the time but i didnt know anything..was she tring to show her authority over me to her friends with his stunt?? 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